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I’m a 24-year-old engineer living in Michigan with a strong passion for self-improvement, especially in the area of social interaction. Throughout my life, I have had a variety of experiences fuel this passion.
One particular day in the summer of 2011, as a young cashier at my summer job at a grocery store in Kalamazoo, Michigan, I was robbed.
Not by gunpoint or while my back was turned – the thief used no force, only persuasion and mental games to get me to give him too much money back.
For those of you that are not familiar with this scheme, it is called “short-changing” or ” change-scamming”, and it happens more than you might think. After a rapid succession of bill exchanges, I knew something was wrong. As I picked up the phone to call my coordinator, the thief convinced me it was ok, and he made off with the extra money. After counting up the cash register, I was in shock at how much money I had given up.
How could this happen to ME, a smart, responsible guy? The truth is, I was not mentally prepared to handle such a situation, due to my lack of confidence. I had to improve, or else face a constant risk of being taken advantage of.
As a college freshman, I had a crippling approach anxiety with girls.
With no previous dates or girl experiences to speak of, I had no clue what I was doing. I would fail time and time again, making every mistake in the book as I attempted to attract women. My results were depressing- I knew I had to take action.
Over the next couple years, I took in as much information as I could in terms of dating advice. I bought products and subscribed to newsletters from some of the world’s top attraction experts. Slowly but surely, upon researching, implementing, and shattering my comfort zone, I started to see improvement. Today, I have a beautiful girlfriend, and my confidence is at an all-time high. I have a more positive outlook on life, and make an effort to be a source of positive emotions for everyone I am around.
Ever since I was in middle school, I’ve had a strong passion for playing the game of basketball.
I have always been super competitive, and the game was a great outlet for that. After barely making the team my freshman year of high school, I put in a lot of hard work, and became the leader of the team by my senior year. I had hoped to one day play college basketball, but that dream evaporated as time went on.
I questioned if that was something I actually wanted to accomplish, or just something to be known for among my family and friends. I don’t have any regrets with my career, and I have learned one of the most important lessons of my life.
Your mind can be your best asset or your worst enemy.
Throughout most of my career I treated myself like shit, being my own worst critic and creating unrealistic negative expectations for myself. Negative thoughts snowball quickly, and there were times I would get so mad I could hardly stand myself. In sports, where psychology and confidence play a huge role, your attitude will determine whether you are successful or not.
There are lots of players that will be near your skill level, but if they have you beat mentally, they will best you nearly every time. It sounds really cliche, I know, but it’s so true. From basketball, I have learned the importance of having the proper mindset for any situation, and that has carried over to all aspects of my life.
These are just a few of the experiences that have shaped me into who I am today. I am constantly growing and improving myself, because I want to get the most out of this life. From what I have noticed, the people who do the best in life are the ones that succeed with people. If you have any questions or suggestions for me regarding anything I have on the site, I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment or drop me an email at [email protected], and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.
Hope to hear from you soon,