How to stop being terrible with names

Names can be a bitch to remember.   Just ask about 98% of the population who are "terrible with names."   If you're like anyone (myself included), it can be overwhelming to remember people's names, especially when you're meeting a big group, and they all...

How to be single on Valentine’s Day

Ahh, Valentine's Day. To some, it's Singles Awareness Day. To others, it's a chance to express their love for their significant other by buying crap like flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners, teddy bears, and sexy lingerie. Maybe I am sounding like the former, but I can...

How to be comfortable in your own skin

The concept of being "comfortable in your own skin" is kinda dark and weird, if you think about it.   I mean.... if you're not comfortable in your own skin, what can you do about it? Be comfortable in someone else's skin? Trade your skin in for another one? Ok,...

What to say to a woman you’re interested in

One of the most nerve-wracking things to do as a man is to approach a woman you're interested in. How do you break the ice?  What do you say next?  Do I smell like tartar sauce?  These are some of the thousands of variations of questions that may race through your...

How to make more friends

  Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another “What? You too? I thought I was the only one!” - C.S. Lewis   If you're a millenial guy living post-college, finding close friends can be difficult. With so many options out there, it almost...

I’m becoming a coach

Well hello there, you look dashing today 🙂   I have decided it’s time to stretch and expand the fibers of my comfort zone and branch out in a way that will help me leave my footprint on this big ol’ blue and green ball.   I’m gonna become a coach.   Maybe a...

How to spend money like a boss

This article originally appeared here on Motivation Grid.    I’ve always been cheap.   5-dollar footlong from Subway? Yes please! Buying the cheapest (but largest) TV for the price? What a deal!   Maybe it’s how I was raised. Maybe it’s my aversion to...

Learn more about me in my latest feature on Hey Saturday

  Saskia Nelson, founder of Hey Saturday (an award-winning dating and photography brand- as featured in Time Magazine and Huffington Post) recently had a few questions for me about my brand over here at Social Sage.   Check out the interview by clicking the...

Plant your tree today?

Today is December 29, 2015.   Great day to start working on yourself, eh?   Each year, our society goes through a bullshit ritual called "New Year's Resolutions." We pick a few things about ourselves that we want to improve in the New Year, and we go for it....

How to be a cool guy

As far back as I can remember, I’ve always wanted to learn how to be a cool guy.   I was never naturally the guy who got the most girls, felt like I had the coolest life, or had the most confidence, so I always felt like I was going against the grain.   I...

8 small talk tips that don’t suck

When it comes to small talk tips, there’s a lot of lame stuff out there.   In an effort to combat the lameness of yet another “small talk tips” article, I am going to try and make it a little more imaginative and mentally stimulating for that big ol brain of...

4 ways to deal with haters and critics

This post originally appeared on Everyday Power, a motivational website and project of TEDx speaker and highly-successful entrepreneur Jeff Moore.  And was written by yours truly 🙂 If you want to be more charming, the ability to not give a shit about your haters and...

The problem with being quiet

Quiet people have it tough sometimes.   In today’s society, loud people are often mistaken for those who actually know what the hell is going on.   It sometimes seems like if you don’t speak at every chance you get, there’s something wrong with you. Why are...

One reason you might be over-analyzing things

The more you fail, the less significant each failure feels -Anonymous   As an introvert and recovering over-thinker, I have found that “over-analysis paralysis” is a real fricking disease that can really wear out of your emotional, physical, and spiritual...

How to stop hating the sound of your own recorded voice

[et_pb_section] [dropcap]F[/dropcap]or some strange reason, most of us are incredibly self-conscious about the sounds of our own voices when we hear them on video or our voicemail.   Do I really sound like that? Damn, that sucks. I sound like an injured mouse. ...

What is charm?

[et_pb_section] To accurately define charm, you almost need one of those long words in another language that is synonymous with some obscure yet super relatable idea.   Like “Shemomedjamo”, which in Georgian means “I accidentally ate the whole thing” or perhaps...

How to build self-confidence when nothing is going your way

[et_pb_section] Do you ever have those days where everything seems to suck?   Those days where it's not even one big event- just a bunch of little things that pile up and drain your confidence.   Well I've had plenty of those, and I wanted to come up with...

Why she stopped texting you (and what to do about it)

[et_pb_section] Headlining here at Social Sage today we have the lovely Claudia Cox from Textweapon, who has been gracious enough to stop by and drop some knowledge, as well as an incredibly valuable female perspective on the delicate art of texting. Enjoy! 🙂  ...

How texting got me a beautiful woman

[et_pb_section] Hey champ!    Quick question for you.   Have you ever struggled with texting a woman you're really interested in?   Have you ever sat there for hours, thinking of something "good" to text her? Have you ever wondered how to show interest...

Pitch Perfect Love: How Jesse attracts Becca

[et_pb_section] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNrBoyqcDJk   With all the recent hoopla about Pitch Perfect 2 coming out, I must say I had no idea there was even a first one. But man, after watching it, I found myself asking my girlfriend when we were going to...

What is an Introvert’s Guide To Charm?

 "There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum."  - Carl Jung, Psychologist    Do you know what an introvert truly is? Maybe you are one. Maybe you are unsure, because sometimes you like to rage in...

Leverage Your Growth With People!

In today's tasty morsel of value, I would like to share a TED talk I recently came across featuring Tai Lopez-  investor and advisor to over 20 multi-million dollar businesses. Tai's audience has exceeded 1.4 million people through his popular book club and podcasts,...

Who Else Wants To Not Give A F*ck?

My goodness, you smell amazing. Is that a new cologne, or just your masculine scent quietly attacking my nostrils? 😉   Either way.... I just wanted to share with you one of my latest blog posts that I had the privilege to share on Nice Guy Dating, appropriately...

The Power of Visualization

       Visualization is a helluva drug.         As a young child, I used to HATE when my parents, teachers, and coaches would preach to me the power of visualization. Whether it was running a track race, playing basketball, or playing the...

3 Advantageous Qualities Of Introverts

[et_pb_section] Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing more to take away - Antoine de Saint-Exupery   Being an introvert, you may be thinking that you are immediately at a disadvantage for your lack of ability to...

When Nice Guys Finish First

Wow. How handsome you look today 😉 It's pretty damn distracting. Anyways... My latest post can be found here on Nice Guy Dating, where nice guys finish first! Inside you'll find 4 battle-tested ways to avoid the dreaded friend zone, including how to tease, text,...

2 Easy Ways To Improve Eye Contact

Your eye contact pierces right through the back of her eyes, and sets her soul on fire.     After a few seconds that seem like an ETERNITY to her… You come out with the BIG GUNS. Hi, I’m [insert first name here] …. *smirk     Nothing says...

How Men and Women Process Emotions Differently

If you're like any man living in any time period in the history of the world, you know that Men tend to be more logical Women tend to be more emotional Men tend to favor yes or no answers, while women often go on seemingly-endless roller coaster rides of emotion. This...

Lessons From Star Wars: Han and Leia

  As much as Star Wars has a connotation for being a nerdy film series, there is MUCH to be learned about attraction from the great Han Solo in Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back. Princess Leia is reduced to a puddle of space goo after being subjected...

Why Is It So Hard To Remember First Names?

Sorry, I'm terrible with names.    Ever heard that one before? If you live anywhere on this big blue-green planet called Earth, I'm going to guess that you've heard it at some point in your life. When somebody says they are terrible with names, do you think they...

The Most Positive Way To Live Your Life

Sometimes, positivity pisses people off. When you’re going through a tough time in your life, there is nothing worse than scrolling through Facebook and seeing other people getting new jobs, new relationships, and traveling to cool places. You think to yourself: why...

Money Talks: What It Says To Women

The idea that women are attracted to money is one of the most misunderstood aspects of dating, period. So many guys think….if I only had money, I could get all kinds of women! Well guess what…you may be partially right.   But I don’t just want some gold-digger...

Fun or Funny? How to attract women with humor

It always seems like the class clown is the kind of guy that gets the girl. That is no surprise: the guy who can be a great source of positive emotions, encourage fun, care-free vibes, and entertain crowds of people seems to know how to attract women with humor with...

Lessons from Scarface: Bad Boys vs. Nice Guys

[et_pb_section]         If you’ve ever been friend-zoned,  you probably remembered that women go for bad boys, not nice guys such as yourself. Why is that, you might wonder? In this clip from the movie Scarface, Tony Montana describes the...

Advanced Body Language: Eye Accessing Cues

[et_pb_section] You have VERY pretty eyes.  Ever used this one before? If so, I have a task for you. 1. Please find someone that does NOT have pretty eyes, and send me a picture. I have yet to see a single set 😛     Anyways, onto today's lesson of...

Your Help Wanted: What is an Introvert?

[et_pb_section]   Hey YOU- I need your help!   Yeah, you, the charming one with the side of you that you don't share with most people.   The goal for this article is simple:  EDUCATE THE WORLD on what it means to be an introvert.   While...

4 Rules of Texting

[et_pb_section]   In today’s dating (insert more modern, informal word here?) world, texting is critical. Texts like “hey” and “what’s up?” are NOT attraction-building texts, and can easily be the quickest way to get your name and number tossed into the...

Lessons from Scarface: Bad Boys vs. Nice guys

[et_pb_section] http://youtu.be/dW37AGZ0Pj0     If you’ve ever been friend-zoned, there’s a great chance you remembered that women go for bad boys, not nice guys such as yourself. Why don’t women go for nice guys? This clip from the movie Scarface describes...

5 Memorable First Date Ideas

[et_pb_section]   My latest post can be found on Single Dating Diva, winner of GreatDatingBlogs.com's Best Overall Dating Blog in both 2012 and 2013, and was named one of the 10 Best Women's Dating Experts by datingadvice.com. Click the link below for 5 memorable...

13 Useful Hacks To Bolster Your Personal Growth

[et_pb_section] My latest post was originally published on Lifehack. Check it out here!   When you think of “hack” articles, you might think of articles that feature collections of household goods arranged in creative ways that you would not normally think of,...

The Innovation of Loneliness

[et_pb_section] If we’re not able to be alone, we’re only going to know how to be lonely. - Sherry Turkle, Professor of the Social Studies of Science and Technology at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology       Some time ago, I came across this...

Why Solitude Can Make You a Greater Person

[et_pb_section] My latest article has gotten over 1000 shares on Lifehack, check it out today! Why Having More Time Being Alone Makes You a Greater Person       “The best thinking has been done in solitude.” – Thomas Edison   When was the last time...

The Best Way to Win an Argument

[et_pb_section] My latest post titled The Best Way to Win an Argument is originally published here on Dumb Little Man, a popular success, happiness, and relationships blog.   We all have that friend who loves to argue. You know exactly who I’m talking about- the...

One Tip to Make HER Chase YOU

[et_pb_section] Let's say for a moment you find yourself one-on-one with the CEO of your dream company in an elevator.   How do you act? Your heart races. Beads of sweat form on your brow as you try to organize the mumble-jumble of words swirling around in your...

Nice Guys DO NOT Finish Last?

[et_pb_section] Nice guys finish last. These words sting worse than slamming your hand in a car door. Perhaps one of the most frustrating moments of being friend-zoned by a woman you are crushing on is afterwards, when your devilishly-charming friend reminds you what...

The Case Against Dinner and a Movie

[et_pb_section] WELL DONE! You just got a STUNNING brunette's number at the bar last night. After a good initial interaction, she showed interest in seeing you again. As you think about what to do next, you consider your options. Typical dinner and a movie? Sure, if...

One Simple Trick To Influence Human Behavior

[et_pb_section] YOU are an intelligent, action-taking individual who is working diligently to develop into the best possible version of yourself. How does this statement make you feel? Is it true?  Regardless, this simple sentence is one example of a very powerful...

How to Avoid the Friend Zone

[et_pb_section] “You’re a great guy, you really are. You are gonna make some lucky girl really happy someday.” “It’s not you, it’s me.” “You’re like a brother to me.” Do any of these phrases sound familiar to you? If you are like countless guys out there, these...

How To Effectively Use Negative Body Language

[et_pb_section] Picture this. You are sitting in a booth at your favorite bar with a few of your best friends, laughing and downing a large pitcher of whatever half-decent beer is on special. As you head over to the bar and flag down the bartender for the next round,...

Conversation 101: How to Talk to ANYONE

[et_pb_section] It’s no secret that having strong speaking skills can get you far in life. Whether it’s charming the cute girl at the coffee shop, commanding the attention of colleagues at a work meeting, or simply making a new friend, speaking well can provide you...

How To Display Confident Body Language

  Research shows that nonverbal communication makes up 60-65% of all interpersonal communication[1]. What is nonverbal communication? In short- it’s your BODY LANGUAGE.  It is the way others perceive you without even opening your mouth. This article is going to...

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